31 marzo, 2023

8 Things To Expect When Dating An Older Man

I was married for 68 years and had a wonderful husband who I lost two years ago. He was a fantastic dancer and I miss dancing now. I would like some one as a friend and likes to be active and dances and likes playing cards and enjoys life like I do. I also believe there will never be a man in this category. But it was fun just sending this information. I am a 64 year old female, divorced in June, retired in January.

I prefer to be a natural, fit, healthy, outdoor loving, down-to-Earth, independent woman compared to a fake, shallow, brainless lazy one. Fourth, don’t carry the “baggage” of previous relationships into your next one. If your first husband, boyfriend, etc. cheated or lied or stole from you that does not mean that the next will. But be cautious because it also does not mean that they won’t. You can get string of heads or tails in a row . You may meet Mr. Wrong, Mr. Mostly Wrong then Mr. Really Wrong, then Mr. Kind of Right before meeting Mr. Right.

Remember that it’s about the two of you as individuals, not your age difference.

None of this ‘I have to get home because I need to get up at…’ It was like being 18 again….what counts is the two of us now. We’re both responsible adults but it’ll go a long way to attract a partner by recapturing some of that crazy teenage magic. He did not get one ounce of pity from me. He can have his 2nd, 3rd, 4th or whatever mid life crisis at someone else’s expense.

So ladies…like a gentleman told me. Never step out of the house without looking your best because you never know who you might meet. That doesn’t mean heels and a face full of makeup…I wear just a little bit of makeup.

Does the rule work for women?

I don’t have kids, and I have my own business, which I find to be “attractive” to the opposite sex. I think that men are steering clear from any drama, or from hearing about past failed relationships, at this age. I would offer women of my age group, to be positive, a good listener, happy, satisfied with their life situation, other than wanting to find someone to share the rest of their life with. I started dating last October, and I have now found my one and only.

I find the situation with men here even worse than before. Now at almost 53 years old I am totally turned off to the idea of being with anyone again. I would always have preferred not to be alone and single, but my luck with men after my divorce, which was 10 years ago, has not been good. If you lived a lot closer you might be able to convince me that there are still men out there with a decent head on their shoulders who desire something meaningful in their lives.

Can an Older Woman-Younger Man Relationship Work?

Thank you for being yourself and giving hope for the rest if us, who are willing to stay themselves despite everything else. Do you teach classes on how to age with dignity? At 80 having had polio 76 years ago and lived normal life, raised 5 kids, had a wonderful husband that died 20 years ago. All kids married with children living all on their own with good jobs too. I walk with a crutch and have good health, drive my car around town but miss conversation.

You sound like a great guy and I wish you all the best. I very much appreciate your kind words. Bertrand…I think I have written quite a bit here over the past few years, but I visit this site very infrequently these days.

I had plans for our future together, I am now making plans for my future alone, spending more time with my daughters and with friends. Hey, I gave the married life my best, now on to new adventures. Jeffery…I am sad just reading your story.

Your post sounds like you have baggage and would scare me away in short time. I want to have a relationship with someone my age. You sound jaded and angry, like many women in their 50s sadly. Went on one of these so-called “dating sites” allegedly catering to folks in my age range.

To me, if I were to find someone, I would like someone to be here 2 or 3 nights a week and I could do the same at his home. You are so right to consider if he becomes disabled and you would then feel like you are required to take care of him. Undoubtedly, that is what this man is thinking about. NO ONE at this age/stage needs to live with someone, forget about his age for a moment.

As I get really old I wonder what I am doing. I feel almost embarrassed by my choices in life. Men who find themselves single in their 50s have often been married for many years, so they continue to desire the companionship and emotional support they once shared. However, his longing for closeness might not be all what it seems. “Men like and appreciate feminine support,” Ryan says. “They’ll look for emotional support with a woman and she’ll think, ‘oh, he must like me,” and often times, he just needs the emotional support.

I don’t know what else to do anymore. I am not someone who enjoys being alone. I like my own space and time to myself on a regular basis, but as a lifestyle being alone really sucks.